๐Œ๐€๐’๐“๐„๐‘๐ˆ๐๐† ๐“๐‡๐„ ๐€๐‘๐“ ๐Ž๐… “๐‚๐Ž๐๐’๐“๐‘๐”๐‚๐“๐ˆ๐•๐„ ๐ƒ๐ˆ๐’๐€๐†๐‘๐„๐„๐Œ๐„๐๐“”

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๐Œ๐€๐’๐“๐„๐‘๐ˆ๐๐† ๐“๐‡๐„ ๐€๐‘๐“ ๐Ž๐… “๐‚๐Ž๐๐’๐“๐‘๐”๐‚๐“๐ˆ๐•๐„ ๐ƒ๐ˆ๐’๐€๐†๐‘๐„๐„๐Œ๐„๐๐“”

In our context, disagreements do not live up to their true potential.

There is not a single day that goes by without us finding something we disagree with. Some disagreements we verbalize, others we simply internalize. The media space has become a great platform for widespread verbal disagreements (beefs and vawulence).

As far as my not very old self remembers, disagreements have never been a good thing, or so i thought. Keyboards and screens have given us voices that in person would otherwise be hushed. A little unfortunate but since we have to deal with each other we might just as well do it right. What is a disagreement?

A disagreement is defined simply as: “a situation in which people have different opinions”.

From my experiences, I would deny the above definition. How can it just be difference in opinions? People get insulted, people get angered, people get frustrated, people get desperate, people get slandered, images get tarnished, reputations get ruined all in the name of disagreements.

How and why do a cultured people, an educated people, a reasonable people stoop so low over a difference in opinion?

Having different options is okay because we’re different people, with different perspectives, shaped by different experiences and different levels of exposure. Somehow, we will always see things as we are not as they are and two people are never the same.

So, if disagreements are not a means to growing our fragile egos in all the ways I mentioned above how useful are they?

๐˜ฟ๐™ž๐™จ๐™–๐™œ๐™ง๐™š๐™š๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™จ ๐™œ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ค๐™ข ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™œ๐™๐™ฉ:ย In a normal scenario where two people share different opinions, the realization and the points to expatiate the opinion that follows are a great way to gaining insight about both the person and the opinion. Sometimes we disagree because we don’t have the full picture and that disagreement can help complete the picture.

๐˜ฟ๐™ž๐™จ๐™–๐™œ๐™ง๐™š๐™š๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™จ ๐™œ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ค๐™ข ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ž๐™ข๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ซ๐™š๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ:ย Gaining insight can either reveal things unknown or expose a lack on either part. Such exposure will push a normal thinking person to grow to be better.

๐˜ฟ๐™ž๐™จ๐™–๐™œ๐™ง๐™š๐™š๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™จ ๐™›๐™ค๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง๐™จ ๐™๐™–๐™ง๐™ข๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™ฏ๐™š๐™™ ๐™œ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ฌ๐™ฉ๐™:ย In situations where individuals see one thing from different angles, it permits for a way forward that captures every idea. Every opinion counts and contributes to growth in its own way.

๐˜ฟ๐™ž๐™จ๐™–๐™œ๐™ง๐™š๐™š๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™จ ๐™—๐™ช๐™ž๐™ก๐™™ ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™›๐™ก๐™ž๐™˜๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฃ๐™–๐™œ๐™š๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ ๐™จ๐™ ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก๐™จ:ย Most wars and out of hand situations always start with a disagreement and before long it degenerates into full blown chaos. Dealing with disagreements constructively will build our conflict management skills.

To be able to achieve these and many more we must constructively disagree which is an art most of us have to master.

๐—™๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป:ย Most disagreements are ego driven and we disagree because we have issues with the person not the opinion. Who does this person think they are, they aren’t fit to hold such opinions etc. Some of us can’t disagree as well because of the person involved.

๐——๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐˜† ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป: We can’t just disagree because we feel like it. You can’t counter an opinion without providing a valid opinion of your own in its place, that’s witchcraft.

๐—–๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ต๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ๐˜€: Most disagreements escalate before they even start because of the words we use. You cannot disagree and challenge or nullify the other’s opinion. Most of us either attack or attempt to stupefy people. We all know that never ends well.

๐—ง๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น: Again, it’s only an opinion and you are not your opinion. An attack on that opinion shouldn’t be an attack on your person. Do your best to keep your emotions in check, any disagreement where emotions mix always goes out of hand.

๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ:ย Disagreements are not avenues for battles, everyone is entitled to their opinion so it mustn’t be welcomed by all. Defend your opinion without raising chaos.

๐—ž๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฝ:ย Truth is not everyone is worth bantering with. Some people are not at the same comprehension level, they’ll never get you. Others are projecting, you shouldn’t be their board.

Everything under the sun is subject to questioning, adjustment and evolution.

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