In our context, disagreements do not live up to their true potential.
There is not a single day that goes by without us finding something we disagree with. Some disagreements we verbalize, others we simply internalize. The media space has become a great platform for widespread verbal disagreements (beefs and vawulence).
As far as my not very old self remembers, disagreements have never been a good thing, or so i thought. Keyboards and screens have given us voices that in person would otherwise be hushed. A little unfortunate but since we have to deal with each other we might just as well do it right. What is a disagreement?
A disagreement is defined simply as: “a situation in which people have different opinions”.
From my experiences, I would deny the above definition. How can it just be difference in opinions? People get insulted, people get angered, people get frustrated, people get desperate, people get slandered, images get tarnished, reputations get ruined all in the name of disagreements.
How and why do a cultured people, an educated people, a reasonable people stoop so low over a difference in opinion?
Having different options is okay because we’re different people, with different perspectives, shaped by different experiences and different levels of exposure. Somehow, we will always see things as we are not as they are and two people are never the same.
So, if disagreements are not a means to growing our fragile egos in all the ways I mentioned above how useful are they?
๐ฟ๐๐จ๐๐๐ง๐๐๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐จ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ง๐ค๐ค๐ข ๐๐ค๐ง ๐๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐๐ฉ:ย In a normal scenario where two people share different opinions, the realization and the points to expatiate the opinion that follows are a great way to gaining insight about both the person and the opinion. Sometimes we disagree because we don’t have the full picture and that disagreement can help complete the picture.
๐ฟ๐๐จ๐๐๐ง๐๐๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐จ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ง๐ค๐ค๐ข ๐๐ค๐ง ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ซ๐๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ฉ:ย Gaining insight can either reveal things unknown or expose a lack on either part. Such exposure will push a normal thinking person to grow to be better.
๐ฟ๐๐จ๐๐๐ง๐๐๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐จ ๐๐ช๐๐ก๐ ๐ค๐ช๐ง ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐๐ก๐๐๐ฉ ๐ข๐๐ฃ๐๐๐๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐จ๐ ๐๐ก๐ก๐จ:ย Most wars and out of hand situations always start with a disagreement and before long it degenerates into full blown chaos. Dealing with disagreements constructively will build our conflict management skills.
To be able to achieve these and many more we must constructively disagree which is an art most of us have to master.
๐๐ผ๐ฐ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ผ๐ป:ย Most disagreements are ego driven and we disagree because we have issues with the person not the opinion. Who does this person think they are, they aren’t fit to hold such opinions etc. Some of us can’t disagree as well because of the person involved.
๐๐ถ๐๐ฎ๐ด๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐น๐ฑ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฏ๐ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ผ๐ป๐ฎ๐ฏ๐น๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ถ๐ป๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐บ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป: We can’t just disagree because we feel like it. You can’t counter an opinion without providing a valid opinion of your own in its place, that’s witchcraft.
๐๐ต๐ผ๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐: Most disagreements escalate before they even start because of the words we use. You cannot disagree and challenge or nullify the other’s opinion. Most of us either attack or attempt to stupefy people. We all know that never ends well.
๐ฆ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐๐ฟ๐๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ:ย Disagreements are not avenues for battles, everyone is entitled to their opinion so it mustn’t be welcomed by all. Defend your opinion without raising chaos.
๐๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ ๐๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐๐ผ๐ฝ:ย Truth is not everyone is worth bantering with. Some people are not at the same comprehension level, they’ll never get you. Others are projecting, you shouldn’t be their board.
Everything under the sun is subject to questioning, adjustment and evolution.
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